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Have you ever thought about whether you could be an “alcoholic”? Like when you hear about people who drive drunk or the neighbor down the street who had a few too many at the BBQ last weekend… Has it ever made you question your own habits with regard to alcohol consumption?

There are a several problems that can come from the consumption of alcohol. Take Binge Drinking, for example. People who binge drink have a purpose. They intend to get intoxicated and drink several drinks in a short period of time in order to get drunk. This is practiced by many, many people ranging from younger kids to older adults. In can be done once a week or once a month but is still a drinking problem.

Then, there is alcohol abuse. This can basically be defined as the use of alcohol interfering with a person’s life. Perhaps a mother is waking up in the morning and immediately getting intoxicated before she even gets her children out to the school bus. This would “interfere” with her life. This would also create problems, most likely, for the lives of her family members.

Alcohol abuse can lead to dependency. Alcohol dependency is not only a mental need to drink, but actually a physical one as well. An individual who is dependent on alcohol will actually experience physical withdrawal symptoms like feeling shaky, jumpy or nervous, depression, fatigue and irritability if they don’t drink. An alcohol detox program will most likely be needed to help a person through the withdrawal process.

Alcoholism is any condition that results in the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, despite health problems that someone might encounter, as well as negative social consequences.
If you, a friend or a family member fit into any of these scenarios, there may be a need for addiction help through alcohol detox and a good alcohol rehab program. It could save a life!

I know people who are haunted by how they treated their kids. This is especially true for alcoholics and drug addicts. Their guilt is despairingly deep - it all comes out when they finally get some addiction help.

The ironic thing about it is that their guilt over drinking or taking drugs is one of the reasons they keep doing it. The harm they do while they’re high, and the guilt they feel because of that harm, becomes one more thing they use alcohol to escape. It’s added to the list of whatever their reasons are for addiction in the first place.

You would think that guilt over the pain they’ve caused to others - like their kids - would be enough to make them stop. But, it’s not. It may increase their desire to stop, but it doesn’t make them actually able to do it. It’s an amazing phenomena that most people will actually do more of what they feel guilty about in order to pacify their guilt for doing it in the first place.

Fortunately, kids are pretty resiliant. Most are willing to forgive just about anything.  But that doesn’t necessarily reverse the damage done. Statistics show, for example, that kids who’s parent drink are four times more likely than the kids of sober parents to drink themselves.

Check out the review of The Sky Isn’t Visible from Here: Scenes from a Life - the gruesome memoir of Felicia C. Sullivan, the daughter of an addict.  It’s an extreme case, but even less extreme situations create a similar effect.

Felicia finally cut all ties with her mother - she couldn’t take it any more. But she turned into an addict despite everything she’d seen. Her first blackout from alcohol happened at 17, years later the same happened with cocaine.

There are millions of stories like hers out there. Kids with horrible childhoods, their vows to ‘never be like my parents’, but turning into mirror images nevertheless.

Addiction help services can change all that. Check it out.

I read an interesting interview with William C. Moyers, son of TV (and other venues) journalist Bill Moyers). William, who has long since recovered thanks to a lot of addiction help, had a serious problem with cocaine in the past.

His interviewer asked the question “If you think you might be drinking too much, does that mean you’re an alcoholic?” Moyers came up with one of the most interesting answers I’ve heard: “It doesn’t mean you’re an alcoholic, but it means you are pondering issues that most people don’t ponder.”

I’m not sure I agree with him 100%. Lots of people ponder those same issues - but they have chosen, for one reason or another, to not use alcohol (or drugs) as a solution to those issues. They’ve also chosen to continue to ponder them, rather than try to escape from them.

But, unfortunately, it’s not that cut and dried. There aren’t too many people out there that are self-aware. They don’t realize they have ‘issues’ and they might not be ‘pondering’ anything.

A friend of my son’s is a good example. He’s not a stupid guy by any stretch of the imagination but I certainly would not describe him as self-aware. He was staying with us for a while - he’s in his early twenties - and drank like a fish. Although he admitted it wasn’t good for him and he probably should be doing it.

But when I asked him what was going on, what was he thinking about, he had nothing to say other than “I just like to have a few beers when I get home from a day at work.” That was it. No amount of prodding could get him to look at what’s going on in his head.

There has to be something not optimum going on in someone’s head to want to be blotto half the time. There are a lot of good things about life. Why would someone choose to be oblivious to those things by being semi-conscious?

In truth, whether they know it or not, they’ve got a problem. Not a drinking problem (although they now have that, too), a problem that makes them want to be semi-conscious and not perceive themselves or what’s around them.

Addiction help services can help them get to the bottom of it. Even if someone says “I just like to have a few beers ….”

I read a news item about Baron Geisler, an actor in the Phillipines, who’s going to get addiction help for alcohol. The story says he lost an acting job because he showed up on the set with a few drinks under his belt. It also said he has a history of drunken brawls but, since his mother sent him to alcohol rehab, he’s ‘no longer like that’. He ’slipped’ because his girlfriend left him. He said ‘never meant to hurt anyone or show any disrespect’.

But out of the blue (in his statement about the recent incident) he also denies his involvement in the shooting of a co-worker he’d recently nearly come to blows with - provoked when Baron insulted the other guy’s girlfriend - and he’s up on sexual harrassment charges filed by his roommate’s daughter.

So, in fact, he is still ‘like that.’

He says he’s just ‘very emotional.’  Sounds innocent enough, but it’s obvious that he’s causing his own problems. And until he stops doing that, it’s going to be virtually impossible for him to stay sober.

If he wants a girlfriend who will not get him ‘very emotional’ by leaving him, he’s going to have to stop doing things that result in sexual harrassment charges from other women, refrain from insulting people to the point of them wanting to beat him up,  and get himself into a position where he doesn’t have to deny his involvement in a shooting.

Maybe then his girlfriends will stay with him and he won’t therefore feel compelled to drink.

A facility that offers full addiction help services would have to help him handle those aspects of his personality.  That’s real rehabilitation.  If you’re looking for a facility that will do that, give us a call.

When a person has a problem with drugs or alcohol they’re sometimes not motivated to do anything about it. Despite the fact that they may be temporarily numbed to the issues that drove them to addiction in the first place, those issues are still there. They couldn’t cope with them before, so what reason do they have to think they can cope with them now? That’s why people need someone else to take the reins and get them addiction help.

Once they’re there, get off the drugs or stop drinking for a while, they can get into actual alcohol or drug rehab then they’ll start to change their mind. That is - if they get into a program that will find and directly address the things the person was having trouble with and help them figure out how to live happily.

But until they get into addressing those problems, they may not have enough motivation to find addiction help on their own.

Sometimes a disastrous occurence in life is enough to spur them on. People have been known to just quit, cold turkey, when the motivation is high enough. But that’s pretty unusual - they may want to quit but when they start going through withdrawal, the pain or discomfort pushes them in the other direction. And getting off some drugs, and even alcohol, can be pretty painful.

At Alternative Choices, the drug rehab program run by the drug court in Tooele County, Utah, there stands a suit of armor at the entry way. The message? “Prepare for Battle” The people doing this program have motivation - rehab or prison. And the program works well - 85% of those who start actually hang in there and graduate.

Your son, daughter, spouse, family member or friend, hopefully, will not need the threat of prison to get help, but expecting them to do it on their own is like expecting someone with the flu - fever, chills, aches and pains all over the place and exhausted - to run a marathon.

They need you to do the running for them until they’re up to it. At Addiction Help Services we can help you find the help, and strength, you need.

A study recently done in the UK - interviews with young adults about drinking - found that young people consider planned drinking, including getting drunk, to be a fun leisure activity - the way people who don’t drink would plan a vacation or a night out to dinner and the movies. Interestingly enough, Professor Christina Griffin of the University of Bath in England, who carried out the study, said her first step to handle the problem would be to “Stop demonizing and making generalizations about young people and their drinking. We also need to listen and incorporate their views and perspectives,” - which doesn’t sound like she’s viewing their drinking as ‘entertainment’, the way the study participants do. She’s looking at them as troubled people who need addiction help.

A friend of my son’s who can easily knock back eight or 10 beers when he comes home from work told me that he drinks that way because he likes to ‘come home from work and have a few beers.’ That was his only explanation, and his only understanding of why he did it.

There was no concept of stress at work, no idea that he was troubled in any way, no idea that he was trying to relieve whatever pressures being mentally alert brought to bear. He just likes to ‘have a few beers.’ Which, to him, is eight or 10 of them.

He did this for many years. He needed some kind of addiction help, and he had absolutely no awareness of it whatever. That’s how far things had gone. And I believe that’s the case with many people who drink a lot.

Their close friends and family probably know better - they can see the destruction the person is engaged in, they often know when the drinking started and what incident or set of circumstances in the person’s life set them off on that course.  But the drinker can’t see it at all.

It is said that one night of drinking impairs critical thinking for a month. It’s obvious that, in this person’s case, his ability to think has been so severely impaired he doesn’t even really do it anymore. He just drinks. Because he ‘likes to come home and have a few beers.’

It’s important to get these people into addiction help services before their brain is totally pickled. Today they can’t think well enough to know why they drink, tomorrow they might not be able to think well enough to hold down a job, or take care of their family, or keep themselves from falling off a building or drinking so much they pass out and have to be taken to emergency. Whatever …. they need help. Don’t buy their ‘entertainment’ thing.

Parents, or soon-to-be parents, usually consider the safely of their kids when they’re deciding where to live. Primarily, they want to stay away from inner cities, crime and heavily trafficked areas. But there’s one thing they may not consider - the convenience of local stores that sell alcohol.

A recent study on alcohol abuse found that kids who live within 1/2 a mile of someplace that sells alcohol are more likely to binge drink and to drive after drinking.

One thing I didn’t know is that in California licenses will usually not be granted to places that want to sell alcohol if they’re within 100 feet from a residence or 600 feet from a school. That’s good.

But, still, if you can make it more difficult for kids to get alcohol by not living close to a place that sells it - although that may mean a little more inconvenience for you when it comes to regular shopping or popping down to the local store, which also sells beer, to get some milk - you could avoid drinking problems with your kids and the need for addiction help services in the future.

If we’re lucky, it may even deter some adults.

According to a recent news report in The Star about Shelby, North Carolina, law makers are considering allowing alcohol sales on the street. Apparently, you can only drink indoors in Shelby. Now they’re looking at restaurants and bars being able to serve alcohol outdoors. The news item reports the comments of several citizens. One of the said he didn’t see why it would be a problem because “vagrants do it all the time.”

I guess the that’s the point for those who disagree with drinking on the street - maybe they’d prefer to not have the townspeople acting like vagrants.

About 15 million people in the U.S. need alcohol rehab. But almost 98% of them never even try get addiction help because they don’t admit they have a problem. That opens the door to some pretty stupid, and potentially dangerous, things - like getting behind the wheel of your car. If being drunk isn’t a problem, why not drive?

Shelby doesn’t need more permissive alcohol laws - nor does anyplace else. Ask anyone who has a family member with a drinking problem. Anything that bumps up the potential for drinking and makes it even more attractive - like being able to sit outside on a summer evening and drink - will lead to an even greater need for addiction help services.

Merry Christmas!!! Time to visit friends and family, have some good meals, wrap and unwrap presents - overall a great time. But many people’s Christmas is marred by family members who drink or take drugs. If they’re drinkers, they’ll probably drink even more during Christmas because whatever pressures they feel that drive them to drinking in the first place are intensified by the holiday season. And the fact that others around them are usually also drinking doesn’t help.

For those who have a problem with drugs, whether or not they’ll take them on Christmas depends on how serious that problem is. As with alcohol, someone who really needs addiction help probably won’t be able to stop themselves for Christmas any more than they can during the rest of the year. So, if you’re expecting your son or daughter to show up drug-free, realize that the problem may be out of their control and don’t expect too much.

Am I bringing you down? Had you hoped to have a wonderful Christmas where you didn’t have to think about those problems? Sorry about that. But I’m not the one bringing you down - what’s weighing on you is not my words, it’s the fact that your son, daughter, husband, wife, other relative or friend, has an alcohol or drug problem that’s not being taken care of.

It’s not going to go away, even if I don’t talk about it.

However, you will feel better if you resolve to do something about it and actually take steps in that direction.

If you don’t want another Christmas like this one, like those you’ve had in the past, get that person addiction help services they need. Call us over Christmas and we’ll arrange something. Think what it would be like to not have this problem and be able to get back to living normally without that constant worry and frustration.

There are lots of things you can do to help you quit drinking - or, at least, cut down. Some experts suggest that you change your habits. For example, if you hang out with people who drink whenever you see them, spend less time with them. Get to know people who don’t drink. Or, if you habitually stop into the pub on the way home from work, try taking a different route. Or you can decide to only drink on weekends. For other suggestions, check out Do I Drink Too Much Alcohol?

But if these things aren’t working, chances are you’re past the point of being able to handle the problem by yourself and could use some addiction help. And chances are you’d be best off in a residential treatment facility where they can get down to the bottom of why you can’t stop drinking.

New Year’s is coming. Time for resolutions. Quitting or cutting down on drinking is probably close to the top of the list for many people. But just like people who resolve to stop eating sugar or junk, get to the gym everyday, lose weight, etc., the vast majority of those resolutions will be in the toilet within a week or two of the new year.

But the consequences of drinking are usually far worse than being a little overweight, so you have to take it seriously. With addiction help services, you’ll get the help you need to do that.